THEY CARE FOR YOU....DON'T THINK THEY'RE INTERFERING IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE .

I think I've already concluded it by the title of this article but let us elaborate it. From a very long period of time ones and friends demanding of more freedom, more liberty and for a small period of time, me too was illusionated by this false belief of theirs. For the first time in my life, I was so damn wrong and I do not regret for it although I'm happy that I experienced the unfailing truth that our parents are just never wrong. 'Never wrong' in the sense that it is their way of showing love, yes, Care is the most innocent and it-just-comes-natural-for-whom-you-love thing for being an avatar of love. Now, I will not jump up to the rubbish topics like 'they are more conscious for the girls' or 'girls are to be taken care of more than the boys', in my opinion, these all are folklore. Its ok yaar, I know that the extreme care thing turns down all your freedom badly but just give a thought to it, what will happen when they do not care and by just a single incident, all your joys turns to sorrows? Simply, you are not that mature so that you can take care of yourself and know all your goods and bads and that's why your parents or Guardians or any person who cares for you takes the lead. Got it? Not yet? Slap!!!!!! Got it now?? Still not??? one more......Slap!!!!!!! Now think for a few minutes holding that cheek with your hand.
You are a girl, going for a morning walk, two guys comes to you saying 'Good morning', if they are your friends, its fine but if your parents don't know them, its normal for them to react fumingly....How can a stranger say any thing to their girl??? Just think more.....think of that situation when those boys are not your friends, but they are roadies came to irritate your, flirt with you.......don't let me go ahead and speak more. So, to all such 'badi mummies' whose presence is dangerous enough for such anti-social elements and they don't even dare to do so, I love you 'Badi Mummies' and Hats off!!!!!!!!

Onlinemania (facebookmania), {Facebook, twitter haaye rabba}

"You have to write the next article for my blog...."
"No, why would I? You do, I don't have time...."
"please.....yaar.......can't you do that for me...?"
after about ten minutes of my pleading, she finally agreed and believe me, I just loved that conversation very much(by the way, I love each and every single conversation with her). So here it is, the best article till now on my blog from the very loveliest friend of mine....enjoy blog writing at its best and I'm damn sure that you're gonna feel the catapult towards a different and amazing tone and style of writing instead of that boring type of mine.!!!

Imagine yourself sitting in your home wishing to talk to a person who is somewhere in a corner of the world miles away from you...The situation seemed practically impossible if we were living in early-man ages why early man let it be few hundred years ago. But today, in this age, where man calls himself as 'civilized' and 'socialized', this situation is not only possible but is as easy as bribing any government officer for getting a legal certificate for your illegal work. So let's thank the one that made this possible and revolutionized our life by creating an entirely different world i.e.,world of virtualism, "The Virtual World", the sole creator and founder of this world, "Internet". It would not be a big deal if I call Internet as God of virtual world.

Well, we all are very well aware of the contribution that Internet has made in our life. It has reduced the distance of miles to a single click of mouse. Everything you want is available on Internet, what you need to do is a single click so there is a long list of advantages and importance of Internet but today our concern is the socializing done through it.

So friends, "Welcome to the socializing in this virtual world in 2012 style". Let's take the case of a 10 year old child and ask him to name the President of our country, 8 in 10 will do it but ask him his favourite cartoon character, he will give you a long list. He would be able to enlist all the social networking sites but if asked about the fundamental rights, he may doubt. The reason is obvious i.e., increasing popularity of these social networking sites. Today even a 10 year old child will be having his account on these sites. Some of the popular social networking sites are Facebook, Twitter, Myspace, Google etc. People of all age groups from a 10 year old child to a 60 year old man are on these sites claiming to be a part of this so called virtual world and considering themselves as socially sound.

The sole intention behind the invention of these social networking sites was to act as a medium to stay in virtual touch with friends and family by "occasionally" sharing photos and news about your well being. But with time, this has taken a new dimension, the word "occasionally" has changed into "regularly" and news about well being into "copy paste monstrosity". Now-a-days, people are so used to these sites, that they even can't imagine their lives without it. Here is a technical term for such kind of people i.e.,"online maniac" and the disease with which they are suffering is "online mania".
Online culture is now so much popular that it has taken a verb form. Ask a person about his routine and 90% chance is there that his routine includes atleast one hour of "facebooking", yes facebooking, the word facebook has changed into facebooking, ask a person what he does in free time, he will answer 'facebooking'. The effect of this online mania can be realized by this. People don't find time to pursue their hobbies and when asked , here comes the prompt reply"where is the time?" They are so damn busy with their work that they can't give atleast 5 minutes to their hobby but somehow manages to spare an hour from their busy schedule for facebooking and tweeting--strange but true!!!!!

People are spending hours and hours on these social networking sites doing nothing. It is like a competition that a person having more number of friends on facebook is socially more sound or more popular i.e., it has turned into a status symbol. Here I wanna share a joke which is best suited in this situation.
A teacher asked a 5th standard studying student that what does the green dot on Parle-G Biscuits' packet signify? The student answered that it signifies that Parle-G is online.

People are now so much obsessed with these sites that they are spending thousands of money to get the photo clicked for the profile or dp. They are going to professional photographers and don't mind to spend half a lakh just for the profile pic, then they upload it and check in every 5 minutes that how many likes and comments they got. The popularity is directly proportional to the number of comments or likes, more number of comments means assurance that you are most looked personality on facebook, which in turn means another 50 thousand rupees for the next photo-shoot. :P

Height of status update is that people post status @five per minute forcing others to like or comment on their updates and if that person don't like or comment on his status, then here comes the tit-for-tat , 'If you don't comment on my status, why should I?' Sharing and uploading photos trend  has become so popular that people now upload photos of anything or everything without considering the security factor in mind. What they want is just fame in this virtual world. Imagine a real life situation if facebook has no existence, then people will roam around with their pics requesting everyone,"hey please like my picture".

Now about friends' list, it follows a scientific law, "Rate of your popularity is directly proportional to the number of friends you have in your list keeping other parameters constant". Some people add as many friends as they can whether they know them or not, doesn't matter! What matters is the number. They send request to strangers and if they don't accept it, then they send incrudelity message saying why don't they accept friend request . When asked about number of friends, they proudly say,"I have 700 friends", "I have 1000 friends" and if a person doesn't have long list of friends, then he is considered socially backward. But dude, what's the point in keeping so many friends if you don't know them, why to waste time in reading copy paste status updates of those persons whom you don't know. Ok, you have thousand friends but how many of them will actually be there when you need some help or you are in trouble? The answer is no one. The only one who's gonna help you is your family and your small set of crazy friends or to be more precise, your buddies. It is how strange that you can name the person who is miles away from you and can give his details but can't name your neighbour and what he does. But in reality, only your neighbour will help you if there is some emergency, not a person sitting miles away from you. Its good to be socialized and to know different people form different corners of the world but then to be connected with them only ignoring your near ones seriously can lead you into trouble. I wonder if someday a stranger knocks the door of my home and say, "we have 10 mutual friends on facebook, can I come in...?"

Now about status update. Some people keep changing their status update in every five minutes, status goes like this,"Going for a vacation next week for one month". By writing this as your status , you are doing nothing but just giving open invitation to the thieves that our home is free for 1 month, you are cordially invited and take whatever you want. Some status updates which I found personally very stupid are senti songs or heartbroken songs and even more stupid is the hundreds of comments that follows it. If you have a problem in your love life, then face them or better talk to that person....why facebook them? By doing this nonsense, are you getting something positive? Here comes another type of status update, "Hey its raining", "Awesome mausam". Dude, if its raining, and you love it, then go and enjoy the rains, why post it as a status. Everyone knows that its raining and the rain wouldn't stop if you don't post it as your status. Seriously, don't be a weather forecaster by posting such kind of things. Another kind of status updates is the motivational speech which is just a copy paste, if you are so much inspired by that, then implement it in your life, not in your profile and some people even post the problems which they are going through(emotional). But dude, just tell me, are you gonna find any solution by facebooking it? It would be better if you try to solve them by talking with that person and I want to say something to those people,"Be selective with persons whom you share your problems, because few cares, others are just curious" so never advertise your emotions. There is a saying that "Neki kar, dariya me daal", now it goes like this,"Kuch bhi kar, facebook par dall". Here I have just one word to say that don't be a facebook status criminal by posting such kinds of status.

At last, I just wanna say that its good to be socialized, use these sites but don't get addicted to them as it is always said, "excess of anything is harmful". Find time for your near and dear ones, go out with them, spend some quality time with them, don't confine your romance within that stupid laptop doing online dating, go out explore something new, spend a day without laptop, mobile and trust me, you will find real peace of mind because you can become the king of virtual world but at the end, you have to live in this real world with real people because whenever you will be in some mental trauma or some serious problem, then comments and likes won't make you feel good but what you will need at that time is the hug, love and support of your dear ones. Here, I'm not criticizing these sites, remeber, If someone write abusive words in a notebook or a paper, then the fault is not of the paper or notebook, the fault is of the person who had written that. So, don't blame these sites instead have a self control and use these sites only for the purpose for which they are created.

Oh "this problematic thing" my god!!!!

I am not writing this blog as a master infact I am writing this one as a weak student and that is what I am in this topic. I have become confident of giving it an attempt as the result of my loveliest friend's support. She told me how to understand someone's problems. Well, I've learnt so many lessons from her that I have to write a whole thick book of these lessons and title it,'Universal Philosophy revisited for dummies and dummy geniuses'. Uuuuuuuuuu.......I will do that in the near future but for now I will just say--'I just love her for this reason, she is awesome!!!!!'. And till now you would be fuming like,'Why don't this idiot just replace the title of this blog with "My Loveliest Friend"?Is he here just to appreciate her or will he talk some business now?.' Let me tell you, you are absolutely right, my reader, I was thinking of doing that but I'm not able to describe her completely.

Ok, leave it..otherwise this post will just never end. Let's talk some business now...

When I was 16, at that time I just used to sit behind and my Papa used to drive the bike. Whenever he was slow, I shouted innocently and unknowingly for that matter,"Drive it fast papa...come on...What are you afraid of so much..???". He always stayed cool with a decent reply, "No beta....safety comes first." Anger was (and I think it still is) my friend in such incidents. An year later I learnt how to ride a bike, it was so easy for me. But a time came when I had to drop my little brother to school  as his bicycle was not ergonomically well. I never felt so much nervousness riding a bike ever and at that time I came to know for whose safety papa was worried of...I love you papa...!!!

Such incidents were and are the part of my life and I think yours too. But the thing is we just need to put ourselves in one's situation before blaming one. I remember how many times I used to shout over my friends during the countless cricket matches we played,"Abe terese ek chakka nahin lag raha, ****** ke!" And I remember when I came to bat, I found it as hard as hell to hit a six.

There are a few more pretty recent incidents that I wanted to share but it will be too specific  to do so I thought. So, I will just keep the rest of the post in your mind..just give a thought to it..just think about all such events in your life and see how many times you were simply stupendously and idiotically wrong by not putting yourself in one's situation and I'm sure you too might come out with a lot of content that is even more than enough for a Santa Clause giftbag.

At last...one more promise to my special friend(oh well...loveliest friend for that matter) that I will always implement this lesson from now on taught by you so flawlessly and amazingly genuinly well ;).

I, Me and Myself

Nope!!! I ain't copying it form the Salman's movie, the title, but this is what I was told that I follow. My loveliest friend keeps telling me that my attitude shows 'I, me and myself' factor and I love her more for that she continously keeps telling this to me and I continually tell her that I don't have any such intention but here comes the reply,"You do carry, but the thing is that you don't come to know about this, the thing called arrogance". Even, the most intelligent part of me can not dare to argue with her much or refuse her suggestion to improve this soft skill. Well, I'm working on it but have not succeeded that much as you can see I'm writing about myself from the very starting of this post and it's been a several lines though, so I think I should better switch on to a second or third person.

The most obvious abstract noun that comes in our mind hearing this is 'Selfishness'. But I will say, use this 'I, me and myself' thing wisely and it'll help you extremely in your life. It'll help you being happy and being a good promising person in most of the relations. Let's see how.....

One is the time when you are dejected, when you expected a lot of love from your loved ones or even friends and you are not getting it, then , it is the best thing to follow this and improve your nature from being possessive to not so at all. It's an awkward situation, I know it very well and afterall who do not expect love from his/her loved ones? But I will say that it may be a misunderstanding thing or you are fortunate that you are secured of that emotional parasite. I'm apologetic to you as I'm not explaining this 'emotional parasite' thing to you this time but may be in some upcoming posts. At this time, I'll just say, "It happens that Shit happens!".So, when you've learnt to live on your own, you're not at all scared of 'if-i-don't-get-a-response' thing. You may utter the words in your mind like,"I am the King of the world" as SRK did in DON or if you're an spiritual personality, then you're simply happy with your God, you do not need anyone else. You can also use this when you're facing a lot of criticism. well, it's quite normal, and my another friend told me that there is a lot of damn gossipping happening about her everywhere so I just suggested her this way. The best way is ignorance for any such criticism.
But remember, this should only be done when you're not getting that response. If you are adapting it as a habit, believe me, you're in danger of losing hold of your relationships.

Second is when you want to do something that is hard, tough or requires a lot of effort. At this time, a completely non-egoistic person will quickly demand for help and that will surely make him weaker for that day when there will be no one to help him. But when ego comes into act, you'll simply say,"I don't need anyone, I can do it by myself!". Now, this is the time where your improvement and capacity as well as skills boost up. You're far more self-dependent now and will continue improving whenever you do this. But again, the same caution, don't adapt it too as a habit because you simply know the consequences when you don't know anything at all about something and you're going to attempt it.

One of my favourite songs I hummmmm.... when I need self-motivation and you may do the same too if you like and that song is....
    mera apna falak hai....mere apne sitaare hain....
    mere apne toofaan hain....mere apne kinaare hain...
    main apne rab ka banda hoon................
    main apne rab ka banda hoon................

At last, one more line for me....I promise you my lovely friend, I'll soon improve this nature of mine.

The simplest and the toughest thing to understand--"LOVE"

First of all, lots of lots of love and kisses to my lovely readers for whom I love to write. Well, it is the longest waited blogpost and there may be many reasons in your mind. Most probably, you would be thinking, it was because of the exams and all that or the lack of the content. Well, well, well.....let me say, it will not be an exaggeration if I alugh till my stomach pains on the above reasons....hahaha!!!! I would laugh because of the fact that the above reasons are simply nonsense. I didn't post any blog during this time because I thought most of the previous blogposts are very critical and important to implement. It was just the matter of time that how many of you did implement any of them? Remember the "attitude.." one........or the "Go Girls!!!", huh? ok, I hope, you'll again start working towards them. Well, another reason that 'lack of the content' one is even more rubbish. I never lack content and can write a new blog everyday. But it's okay yaar, this blog is not about any implementation thing, it's all about feelings, emotions and the best thing called LOVE.


Now, instead of going for the meaning, looking at you, my lovely young reader, I will directly jump to the relationships for which we have to deal everyday with and there is only pumping and impulsive force for them called LOVE. If I have to define love, I will just say as Michael Jackson did in his book 'Dancing-The Dream' that--"Love is like a wet soap-bar, you must know how to handle it gently, if you hold it tight or very loose,  in both the cases, you will fail maintaining it". Well, love also has three types and I apologise if reading the previous few words you thought-"yaar, yeh phir se shuru ho gaya". Yup, I did!!! First one is possessive love in which only the demand of love is there, love is expected more and more and more but this type of love is very painful and brings dullness and dejected feeling to your life. You will never be happy if you expect more in return. The second type is the one in which love is demanded in return for love. Well, it happens most of the times in modern relationships, mainly the girlfriend-boyfriend type. The third type of love completely lacks possessiveness and is highly spiritual and it says, "Just love and expect nothing in return." It may not be possible to love a human like this but it is possible to love God in the same way.


Most of the youngsters now-a-days are having quick break-ups after starting of their love life or many marriages are breaking soon. But afterall, why??? why, why, why? Oh! it's damn simple to answer this question. Most of us have heard the statement uttering out of a lover's mouth--"You're a very interesting person." This term spits out when they keep discovering new things about each other, when they're still discovering innovative things about each other, they are happy and till that time, they find each other interesting and confuses this feeling with LOVE. But, the day they are bored with each other, comes across the fact that now (s)he has no new qualities, the relationship ends. When the attraction of face fades, when the romance of flesh diminishes, when they're done with sex, when they can't bear to watch the same face everyday anymore, the relationship is no more. This is not love, this is just a temporary attraction but love is purely spiritual. When you love, it means your soul is interconnected with other's. The love is something that never lets your interest down in other person. It does not tell you to be attracted to some qualities of the person, it tells you to be attached to that person.

But sometimes, infact many times, a situation comes when you would wonder, "Why that person can't love me?" I will say 'love yourself' first. If you don't love yourself, how can you expect others to love you? If you say you're not good looking, how can you expect anybody else to say that you do look good? This face and this body will be yours till the very end either you love it or not, so why not love it? And now I feel that the line of a very famous song, "main to khud se pyaar jataaun" seems far more sophisticated and really true to me. So, with the only message I wanna leave to you is --"Just love, love others and love yourself. It is an awesome feeling to fall in love(with yourself)."

What is real help???

Help!!!!!!hmmm......... what is it? Let me tell you an anecdote to clarify it with lots of elaboration contained in it.
Once there was a professor in a medical college who wanted to teach his students a little philosophy. Therefore he decided to invite all of the students in a hall.He told them-"Now i will teach you how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly."He told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon. But no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.
The students were waiting and it happened. The butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it didn't have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died.When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the
struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died.
So the boy was thinking that he's helping that insect and unknowingly he was letting him in a deep deep trouble and that eventually resulted in a blunder that costed its life.Therefore, it is one of the most essential parts of our life to understand what real help is? If you start helping each and everyone immediately , it'll not help at all, infact it will result in their underpreparation for one of the toughest times in their life where they will need to stand and face problems with enthusiasm and strength.Let's take a few daily life examples--What is the best thing to do when you're having a seat in a bus and a few ladies are standing? Well seriously I can't answer it precisely but there are definitely two views. The first one that it'll be a real shame if a youngster is sitting and a female had to stand. Well, the second thing is if we give them seat each and every single time, what about those times when they're on a long journey during a period of festivals so that they have to travel all the way standing.Therefore, it is necessary to let people be a little bit more self-dependent so that instead of looking for help anytime they are in a problem, they try to solve it manually and that too culminates to success.
Now this one the last example yaar, and here each and every single thing will be crystal clear to you. As most of us did prepare for IIT-JEE and the best and foremost instruction with topmost preference in each book was not to look at the solution unless you've tried it for several times and are exhausted in it.Why did they keep instructing that? Because if we will not solve the problem by ourselves, then everytime a problem comes to us, we'll look for the solution immediately or say we'll have no idea of how to proceed now because we'll be out of tricks as we didn't improve our mind in that particular direction.
This time I will not conclude  and for the first time I'm inviting comments as a conclusion from each and every reader. Hope this time, it lets you come to a life changing decision in your life or say other people's lives!!!!!!!

GO GIRLS, RULE THE WORLD!!!!!!

I watched Chak De India for the 17th time yesterday and again got inpiration with the same intensity as it was when I watched it for the first time.I really liked the way Shah Rukh created the team, taught them how to play for the country and lo and behold, took them to world cup victory.I liked these things very much. But there is a difference between like and love and what I loved in that movie was the incident when all the Chak De girls were at a restaurant , a few guys were irritating them and then the inception of building a team appeared super-clear. All the girls beats them so hard that they will never ever think about doing it again. Now, a few questions that are necessarily going to Google your mind are-How dare the guys irritate the girls? The answer is pretty simple and that is the guys think that the girls are weak, they'll just tolerate whatever the guys will do. The boys think that they have the right to stare at any girl, tease them, irritate them, flirt with them and do whatever they want to. Ok, boys ke baare me to kar li baatein, yeh to haraami hain but I would like to ask the girls, How stupid you are? If you allow them to do these things, why would they waste the opportunity?

And now starts your list of excuses and the first and the topmost is definitely going to be about practicality in that particular incident. Let me tell you, it is purely practical, the thing is that you lack confidence. The thing is you have developed the habit of feeling protected just in  the company of your brothers or father. All in all, you are again depending and depending specially on the men. It's ok, being dependent on your brother or father is good. But what will you do when they are not with you? I will say just one thing, you girls have go the power that no boy in the world possess. But be mentally strong, by strong, I mean so strong that you never loose hope even if the conditions are going to be worst. From the very next time, whenever men irritate you, "milkar itna maaro haraamzadon ko ki zindagi bhar yaad rakhein aur doosre bhi dekhkar darein." I would like to give you a few advices:-
First- I would request the girls to be united. If you will not be united, it will be a lot easier for them to irritate you.
Second-and the most important advice-Learn martial arts or any type of fighting act that'll help you in self defence. It's not a joke, it's extremely important.

Keep those two advices in your mind, but first develop a conviction in your mind that you will definitely win. Believe, believe and believe yourself. I hope you would have understood very well whatever I said but again you will hesitate in implementing it. Let me give you one more advice for it, just discuss with other girls about it. Build your own team and be the strongest gang. Oops!!! one  more problem? what about the hesitation you possess about asking it to your parents, that martial arts thing? WEll, think about the irritation and you'll just catapult yourself to talk about it. I would like to say one more thing, this blog may surely develop a sense of negative feelings for boys but I will say that I hate the statement-" All men are dogs". Screw you!!! how dare you say that? You are abusing your own father and brother? Not all are like that girls, you just have to understand who are good and who are not.
Now when I'm believing you, why can't you do it to yourself?
I hope this blog was enough for you to ejaculate the Adrenaline Rush. And I hope, one day will come when 10 boys are beating your brother and you come and save him. Just Go Girls--Rule the world!!!