What is real help???

Help!!!!!!hmmm......... what is it? Let me tell you an anecdote to clarify it with lots of elaboration contained in it.
Once there was a professor in a medical college who wanted to teach his students a little philosophy. Therefore he decided to invite all of the students in a hall.He told them-"Now i will teach you how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly."He told the students that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon. But no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.
The students were waiting and it happened. The butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon, and one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly out of the cocoon against the advice of his teacher. He broke the cocoon to help the butterfly so it didn't have to struggle anymore. But shortly afterwards the butterfly died.When the teacher returned, he was told what happened. He explained to this student that by helping the butterfly, he had actually killed it because it is a law of nature that the
struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps develop and strengthen its wings. The boy had deprived the butterfly of its struggle and the butterfly died.
So the boy was thinking that he's helping that insect and unknowingly he was letting him in a deep deep trouble and that eventually resulted in a blunder that costed its life.Therefore, it is one of the most essential parts of our life to understand what real help is? If you start helping each and everyone immediately , it'll not help at all, infact it will result in their underpreparation for one of the toughest times in their life where they will need to stand and face problems with enthusiasm and strength.Let's take a few daily life examples--What is the best thing to do when you're having a seat in a bus and a few ladies are standing? Well seriously I can't answer it precisely but there are definitely two views. The first one that it'll be a real shame if a youngster is sitting and a female had to stand. Well, the second thing is if we give them seat each and every single time, what about those times when they're on a long journey during a period of festivals so that they have to travel all the way standing.Therefore, it is necessary to let people be a little bit more self-dependent so that instead of looking for help anytime they are in a problem, they try to solve it manually and that too culminates to success.
Now this one the last example yaar, and here each and every single thing will be crystal clear to you. As most of us did prepare for IIT-JEE and the best and foremost instruction with topmost preference in each book was not to look at the solution unless you've tried it for several times and are exhausted in it.Why did they keep instructing that? Because if we will not solve the problem by ourselves, then everytime a problem comes to us, we'll look for the solution immediately or say we'll have no idea of how to proceed now because we'll be out of tricks as we didn't improve our mind in that particular direction.
This time I will not conclude  and for the first time I'm inviting comments as a conclusion from each and every reader. Hope this time, it lets you come to a life changing decision in your life or say other people's lives!!!!!!!